I was browsing books at an airport recently for something that was an easy read, and reasonably stimulating. My nephew John, who has just turned thirteen, is a keen reader, and was thrilled with a couple of books I’d bought him for Christmas.
It was quite by chance I discovered the Film (screen play also by Ness) which I saw today, so I’m full of it. (Note – this is not review of either) just a Monster I wanted to share. They’re not always the bad guys.
In a nutshell, Conor’s Mum is receiving treatment for cancer, his Dad lives in America, there’s a school bully,his Grandmother and of course – the Monster.
What struck me about the story is how principles of the Tao* are played out in it. How the contradictions of life are present in the same moment: happy/sad, angry/peaceful, life/death. It relates to how we make judgements about people or situations without having any information about their motives; how we harden to the difficult times when a better option might be to soften and yield.
The Monster tells Conor three stories after which Conor has to share one of his own. The Monster stipulates the story must be based on truth. Conor experiences incredible resistance to this because his truth is based on a nightmare, one he could not possibly voice.
Ness’ work demonstrates our shared humanity; how there is no such thing as coincidence; and what happens if we dare make friends with the resistance and allow ourselves to be vulnerable.
The paradox is even represented in the Yew Tree (the Monster) for the Yew is noted for its poisonous as well as it’s medicinal, health-giving properties. It gives life and it takes it away. It’s about Yew (You).
The greatest surprise of the film (which was not featured in the book) was the scene with no words, and yet it touched me deeply. When a picture paints a thousand words; secrets reveal themselves often in the sweetest way and life resumes a rhythm that takes us back to a safe place, where we can be the same and yet forever different.
From a Biodynamic perspective, speaking the truth can be a huge hurdle for a client. As in the movie, you may feel judged because of something in your past (or present) that you share. You may feel overwhelmed by your story: that it’s too big, too ugly, something to be ashamed of.
Consider that by keeping your story** locked away, it may create a Monster. It may cause physical symptoms and create illness, disease, discomfort. It has the potential to create anxiety or depression, difficulty in relationships and take you further away from your true nature. You may think that in telling of your story you may break apart and die, but you may also break free to live and to heal. The truth has a vibration that settles gently when there is no resistance to it.
Moving away from your thoughts and into your body can reveal buried treasure, you might experience true joy, happiness and laughter. You are full of possibilities.
*(Tao is a philosophy – not a religion)
**(Story: Eckhart Tolle in ‘The Power of Now’ elaborates beautifully on how we carry our story with us and use it to define our identity in ways that may not best serve us.